NOTE: Somewhere in this newsletter I reveal to youan almost "magical" technique... This particular technique is one of those "gems" that you can use in many situations with women... one that has the power to instantly transform the energy between you and a woman into an almost INSTANT ATTRACTION...
Here's an interesting thought:
Ask 100 attractive women if they know what the
words "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" mean, they'll all nod their heads and say "Of course!".
Ask 100 guys off the street if they know what the
words "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" mean, and about
98 of them will give you a dumb look and say "Uh, not
really".
A few will probably say things like "Um, is Sexual
Tension like when you and a chick are having sex in
a weird position and you get a cramp?".
The reality of this situation is that most attractive
women know EXACTLY what Chemistry and Sexual Tension
are... and they can describe them in DETAIL... but
most men have literally NO IDEA... they're completely
clueless.
Think about that.
I'm talking about an incredible phenomenon here...
How is it POSSIBLE that one of the most important
aspects of attracting a woman is something that most
men know NOTHING about?
And how is it that almost ALL attractive women are
totally "in the know" about this stuff?
Is there some kind of strange conspiracy against
men?
Are women keeping a secret from us guys just so
we won't be able to break the code?
Maybe.
I mean, think about it...
If you were an attractive woman, would you want
to find a guy that you had to TEACH the concepts of
Chemistry and Sexual Tension to... or would you want
a guy who just "got it" on his own... "naturally"?
Duh.
You'd want the guy who already "got it".
So more likely than a conspiracy against clueless
men, women just naturally respond to men who GET IT,
and DON'T respond to men who DON'T.
So let's talk about these concepts a little bit
more.
When a woman uses the word "Chemistry", as in
"There was chemistry between us" or "I want to meet
a man and have natural chemistry", she's talking about
ATTRACTION.
Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that
she and a guy are "naturally compatible" because
her emotional and physical sparks fly when she
meets or is around that guy.
NOTE: I did NOT use the word "logical" here.
Chemistry is NOT the result of a woman meeting
a man and then thinking to herself "Let's see...
he is six feet tall, has a good job making 37% more
than the medial salary, is the correct age for child
rearing... I think that we have a natural chemistry...".
Nooooo way.
For a woman, Chemistry is either THERE, or it ISN'T.
There's no two ways about it.
Unfortunately, most guys hear the word "Chemistry"
and they think it somehow equates to "The guy must
be good-looking so the girl thinks he's sexy... and
since I'm NOT the most handsome guy alive, women won't
feel it with ME".
This is only because most guys don't get that you
can make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you REGARDLESS
of your looks, age, income, height, or anything else.
So let me repeat:
"Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she
and a guy are "naturally compatible" because her emotional
and physical sparks fly when she meets or is around
that guy."
Now let's talk about Sexual Tension.
Sexual Tension is about the interaction.
It's that feeling you get when you're in the presence
of someone you're attracted to, but there are OBSTACLES,
ANTICIPATION, HUMOR, and/or other ingredients in the
mix that both increase the ATTRACTION, and increase
the TENSION in the situation.
Sexual Tension is the combination of being pulled
toward someone, but also feeling resistance at the
same time.
It's about not knowing what's going to happen,
but being on the edge of your seat WANTING to know
what's going to happen.
Think of it this way...
If a woman KNOWS that she has you right from the
beginning, she won't be as interested... this is why
so many guys kill their chances with a girl instantly
by going "overboard" and doing too many things to
demonstrate his interest.
But if she DOESN'T know whether or not you're interested,
and you keep the mystery up, while making her more
and more interested, she will think about you ALL
THE TIME.
This is creating Chemistry, and increasing the
Sexual Tension.
Will a woman feel more ATTRACTION for a guy who
always talks to her when he sees her, always calls
her, and is always available?
No.
She'll feel more attraction if he's more mysterious,
challenging, and unpredictable.
Remember, Sexual Tension is GOOD for attraction,
not bad for it...
So let's talk about some great ways to create Sexual
Tension... which will NATURALLY lead to that magical
feeling of CHEMISTRY.
Here are a few of my favorite ways to create and
amplify Sexual Tension:
BE COCKY & FUNNY
Being Cocky & Funny, or using Cocky Comedy, is
a fun, interesting, enjoyable way to create and amplify
Sexual Tension.
The formula is:
Start with an arrogant thought, then add humor to
complete.
If you're standing in line waiting for your coffee,
and you notice an attractive woman behind the counter,
you could say "Hurry up, you're not working fast enough"
in a serious tone of voice.
That's arrogant. It's cocky. But it's not at all
FUNNY.
You'd sound like a jerk-off if you said that in
a cold way.
If instead you said "Hey, since you like me and
this line is always long, how about if I just walk
to the front from now on and you give me free coffee?"...
Now that's a whole different story.
If that same girl behind the counter goes to take
your money, and drops it, you could say "You're a
klutz, watch what you're doing".
If you did, you'd sound rude and stupid.
On the other hand, if you start shaking your head,
roll your eyes, and breath out through your nose loudly
in a dramatic way like you're completely annoyed with
her (in a funny way), you're going to make her laugh.
Good thing.
These are examples of being Cocky & Funny, or using
Cocky Comedy.
WAIT TO CALL HER
What do most guys do when they get a girl's number
or email address?
Right, then call or write three minutes later.
"Hi, it was great meeting you a few minutes ago...
so, what are you doing?"
OUCH.
Calling or writing a woman immediately is one good
way to destroy any anticipation or Sexual Tension
that was present in the moment.
On the other hand, if you call up two days later
and say "Hey, what up? I'm busy tonight, and tomorrow,
but let's do something on Friday. Here's my number,
call me... I gotta go..." that's a TOTALLY different
type of communication.
By day two, she's already wondering why you haven't
called, wondering if you're getting back together
with your ex that she's imagining being a model...
and generally beginning to wonder if and when you're
going to call.
Waiting builds tension. Do it. And do it after
the FIRST call as well. Learn to become comfortable
not knowing what's going on... and waiting to find
out. It's MUCH better.
TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK
This is the ultimate formula for AMPLIFYING a woman's
anticipation, arousal, and interest in you.
Moving two steps forward, and one step back takes
Sexual Tension, and it DIALS IT UP.
The idea is simple:
Every time you make "progress" in a romantic way
with a woman, STOP. Then lean back.
For instance, if you have been talking to her,
and you start holding hands... after a few minutes,
TAKE YOUR HAND BACK.
Then lean back physically, and move away from her
for a little while.
If you wind up kissing a little while later, STOP
kissing her, and lean back again.
Get it?
Women don't get turned on quite the same way men
do.
Men are on/off switches.
Women are volume knobs... that need to be turned
up gradually.
If you show some self-control, make her feel good,
and then go two forward, one back you will give a
woman an experience she'll really enjoy, and won't
forget...
TEASE HER
Women LOVE teasing when it's done in the right
way.
Some people think of teasing as "making fun of"...
Now I DO love to make fun of women... but I'm talking
about a different type of teasing right now.
I'm talking about the type of teasing where you
give someone a LITTLE BIT of what they want, then
take it away so they want it MORE.
I'm talking about leaning in to kiss a woman, then
stopping right before you kiss her... so she can feel
your lips just about to touch hers, and then staying
there for just a moment...
...and then LEANING BACK.
You're teasing her.
You know that she wants you to kiss her, but you're
NOT kissing her.
You're in control, and she loves it, hates it, and
WANTS IT.
Teasing creates this Sexual Tension rapidly.
You can tease in many ways...
Next time you're buying something, when the girl
behind the counter reaches out to take your money,
put it in her hand, then quickly take it away as she
grabs it.
That's teasing.
It's fun, and you can use it almost everywhere
for the enjoyment of both you and her...
ANOTHER REAL-WORLD EXAMPLE
Let's say you and a woman are out together, and
you're enjoying your evening.
She decides to throw out one of those types of
questions that you're not expecting, but that seem
DESIGNED to throw you off...
She asks the question... "Do you think we'll ever
have sex?"
Now , most men will answer "I hope so" or "why,
do you want to?"
Sexual Tension KILLED.
She asks "Do you think we'll ever have sex"...
You answer "Only in your dreams... and calm down,
just because I'm out with you doesn't mean I'm going
to sleep with you"...
Sexual Tension AMPLIFIED.
When she asked the question, she was TESTING you...
she wanted to know if you were going to bite down
on the bait. She was finding out if you were REALLY
as in control as it seemed.
You either pass or fail those.
The more you watch for, listen for, and pay attention
to Sexual Tension, the more you'll begin to NOTICE
it.
And the more you NOTICE IT, the more you can start
to control it, amplify it, and direct it.
A FAVORITE WAY TO CREATE CHEMISTRY AND SEXUAL TENSION
I'm going to share a FANTASTIC technique with you
right now, so turn on your thinking cap, and remember
this one.
This is a great way to let a woman know that you
understand Sexual Tension and Chemistry, while at the
same time CREATING THEM.
Let's use a real-world situation.
Maybe you had responded to a few online personals,
and some women have written you back...
And lets say that one of the women said "tell me
more about yourself", etc.
Let's further say that in her online personal profile
she mentioned that she loved cats...
You might write her back, and say:
"Here's a litte more about me... I'm sitting on my
favorite chair, reading a magazine. You walk into
the room, and the air shifts... you slowly and carefully
walk up to where I'm sitting, and rub up against my
leg... I look down at you, and you look back at me...
"Meow", you say... I reach down, and gently stroke
your head... and you go running away... like a typical
kitty cat..."
If you are acting like a MAN, being Cocky & Funny,
communicating that you're in control of yourself and
the situation, etc., something like this can be MAGICAL.
A story like this one communicates sooooo many
things at once... things that would take you literally
weeks of "regular" communication to convey to her.
A little story like this one, at just the right
time can create so much Sexual Tension, and spark the
Chemistry so fast that you'll often INSTANTLY take
things to a different level with a woman.
Now, there's a very important factor that you MUST
understand...
You CANNOT do this, create a little story like
this, and try to use this way of talking to a woman
if you're acting like a WUSSY.
This can only be used in the context of you having
communicated that you're a MAN... and one that understands
ATTRACTION, at that.
If you try to do this kind of thing before you've
communicated that you're a masculine, powerful guy,
you're only going to make a woman RUN away.
So now that you understand Chemistry and Sexual
Tension... and finally had someone explain these amazing
concepts to you... what's the best way to learn the
other keys to making women feel ATTRACTION for you?
In fact, what's the best way to get the very best
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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