Cocky and funny

Cocky and funny is absolutely the best technique for getting women, but there is still more to it. Keeping your composure is also very important. If for any reason you say... trip and fall... then don't overreact! Every human on the face of the planet makes mistakes similar to that, and you make it a lot worse by blowing it out of proportion by freaking out in crazy embarrassed way. Just get back up, laugh a little and say a little "oops" or something then go on like nothing happened. Act like you aren't fazed when you screw up around girls. It gives an overwhelming sense to the girls that you are one confident badass. Confidence is beyond important. You cannot show fear of anything. People have got to look at the world as their own playground, where everybody else is just their string puppets for them to control to get what they want. You've got to emit the sense to whatever girl you are trying to hook up with that you think anything is possible. There is no fear, and thus there is only supreme confidence. Supreme confidence will bring you supreme women.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, one of my favorite topics: COMPOSURE.

I have been thinking a lot about the concept of composure lately. I'm actually writing a section on it in a future book... and I spent some time talking about it in the Los Angeles seminar back in May.

Composure if vital because we humans tend to read very subtle cues from others, then make large judgments about them as people.

For instance, if you're the type that let's little things bother you, then you're probably going to be thought of as not-exactly-masculine.

For instance, let's say that you're out with a girl for coffee, and you come out to find a parking ticket on your car. Some guys I know wouldn't even think about it... they'd just get upset. They'd start whining, ranting and raving... and throwing a tantrum... with no regard for what the woman is thinking of them.

On the other hand, I know guys who would causally pick up the ticket, make a funny comment, and not even miss a beat.

What's the difference?

The guy who keeps his composure at all times is FAR more attractive than the one who doesn't.

Another place that composure plays an important part is when women TEST men. If a woman starts trying to push your buttons, becomes demanding, or starts being dramatic about something, you need to KEEP YOUR COOL.

In fact, some of the guys I know who are THE MOST successful with women actually don't even respond AT ALL to drama or tests from women.

They just continue what they were doing.

Oh the other hand, I know some guys who let this kind of thing take them off balance and upset them (I used to be one of those guys).

If you let things like this upset you, or even get to you a little bit, it's going to be obvious that you
can't control your emotions, and it will make you less attractive all the way around.

Keep your composure. Keep your composure. Keep your composure.

David D.
Double Your Dating Ebook

COMMENT FROM A WOMAN

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN*** I am a lady and read your spam for the fun of it. Boy are you all wet and not dry behind the ears yet when it comes to knowing how to attract a lady. I suppose you do all right attracting the ugly ducklings that want to be your door mat. Making fun of the way a lady is not attractive, it just shows what a rude jerk you really are and have no manners. Faking being busy on the phone is one of the oldest tricks in the book and all women are wise to it. If you were truly busy, you would not have called in the first place and women know this. Waiting a certain length of time to call is just ignorance. Out of sight, out of mind is the way most women think about men, when you snooze, you loose. Darlin, get real, this is 2002, head games are a definate no no, honesty is in, or has it been so long since you have attracted a lady instead of a door mat you don't know this. Women have more brains than men and all women know we are sitting on the world men are trying to win, so being rude and making a real pain in the butt out of yourself may get you a door mat but never a lady. Keep your nonsense flowing, us women get a real good laugh from your advice on how to score. The old saying sure holds true with your writing," Those who can do, those who can't write a book on how to". haha!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well I guess you told me!

Here's what I heard you say (my interpretations, of course):

1. Waiting to call a woman back is a bad idea, and if you don't call her immediately then she'll forget you and not want to ever see you again.

2. Women are smarter than men.

3. Women are "sitting on the world men are trying to win", which I'm assuming means what you have between your legs.

4. That you believe I promote "being rude" and "faking being
busy".

OK, where do I start?

I don't know, but I have sneakin' suspicion that you share
the CRACK PIPE with the STONED woman from last week. Don't
tell me that you're a base-head too?

Well, I guess you asked for it, with your off-the-handle
emotional rant... so here goes. (Can you believe that I get
to have this much fun... and call it work?)

So you think that waiting to call a woman back is a bad
idea, huh?

And you think that if you don't call her back immediately
that she'll have forgotten you... and just not be interested.

This is an interesting line of thinking.

If you're high.

Look, it's soooo commonly known that it's not a good idea
to call a woman the moment after you've met her that even
guys who have never seen the movie SWINGERS know not to
do it!

Yea, I see. I think that from now on, I'll just ask women
for their cel phone numbers, then call them right after I
walk away. I can say "Hi... it's me! Look over your left
shoulder! Here I am! [Waving my arms around]"

That would be cool.

I'd make fun of this idea more, but I have a minimum of
three more incredibly stupid ideas of yours to bust on...

So you think that women are smarter than men, huh? Your exact comment was "Women have more brains than men". You know, this is genius level thinking. It's probably because you're smarter than me that you actually know this.

I'll bet, though, that because you've smoked so much CRACK that you've killed enough brain cells to make us at least EQUALLY "brainy". Just a hunch.

I think you took a step down the wrong path with this comment.

And then you started RUNNING FULL SPEED down that same
wrong path with:

"...all women know we are sitting on the world men are
trying to win..."

Do me a favor... next time you send me an email like this,
send me your address so I can PAY YOU for your
contribution. I wish I could come up with stuff like this
myself.

I see that you've written me an email, so you must have
access to a computer (just a guess). But it seems to me
that you must be pretty new to the internet, because you
obviously haven't figured out that any man can get online
and within 30 seconds be looking at beautiful naked women
for free.

And if they really have a mind to not have to listen to
your mouth AND AT THE SAME TIME "win" the "world" that
women like yourself are sitting on, ALL THEY HAVE TO DO
IS FLY TO VEGAS AND GET A CAB OUT TO THE CHICKEN RANCH!

This is 2002! It's not the dark ages.

I feel like I can speak for most of the guys on this
newsletter when I say that we would like to meet women
who are emotionally stable, friendly, happy, financially
together, etc. (I don't expect you to be able to identify
with this description... don't worry about it.)

It's not our desire to just "win what you're sitting on".

We don't have to anymore. We improve ourselves in this
area because we WANT TO. We're not interested in playing
"Hi there Miss, will you please give me some attention and
some of what you're sitting on?"

And finally, to address your comment that implies that I
teach men to be rude and to fake things...

You're missing the boat entirely. It's like a joke, you
either get it or you don't. And you don't.

Remember, send your address next time! And also try the
spelling and grammar check in your word processor, because
you write like an emotionally unstable middle-schooler.

David D.
Double Your Dating Ebook

The Legacy We Leave in Our Relationships

by Chris Widener

Relationships are at the very core of our existence and something we deal with every day and on every level of our lives. We have very superficial relationships with many people, such as merchants we may meet, and relationships that we consider intimate, such as the ones we experience with our immediate family and our mates.

Relationships provide us with both the most positive as well as the most negative experiences we have in our lives. There are those who, though they may never achieve fame or fortune in this world, will be remembered very highly by all who came in contact with them. Their funerals will overflow with people they have touched.

The pain and joy that can come as children remember their deceased parents is determined by the lives those parents lived and how well they maintained the relationships with their children.

And what it all comes down to is the ability to maintain healthy relationships.

I want to share with you the key components of establishing relationships that will allow you to leave a fantastic relational legacy.

Be Purposeful. People are busy and time flies. Put these two together and you have a recipe for disaster in the relationship department. Pretty soon you and your best friends have had months go by between times spent together. In order to have quality relationships we have to be purposeful.

This is especially true with couples and even more so for couples with small children. They need to be very purposeful in making sure they spend quality time together communicating and enjoying one another.

Be Proactive. This is the opposite of reactive. Reactive is when your spouse says, “We never spend any time together,” and you respond by saying, “Okay, we will this week.” It would be to sit down at the beginning of each month or week and schedule the time, or better yet have a weekly “date night.” The key is to take control and schedule your relationships. Otherwise, they are going to get away from you.

Be Disciplined. Yes, it takes discipline to maintain healthy relationships. The discipline is to make investments regularly. This means the monthly lunch with a friend. It means the yearly hunting trip with friends from high school. It means cutting out of work early to go to your child’s game. It means disciplining yourself to work harder during the day in order to leave at a set time so you can eat dinner with your family. All of these are acts of discipline. Just as we have to discipline ourselves in other areas of our lives, like exercising for health or investing for wealth, we have to discipline ourselves into actions that will produce strong and healthy relationships.
Value People Above Possessions, Schedules and Achievements. The sooner we realize that we leave behind all of our stuff when we die, the sooner we will be able to focus on what matters most—relationships. Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that we shouldn’t do our best to become successful financially or that we shouldn’t enjoy material possessions. What I am saying is that should be secondary to healthy relationships. I can’t imagine someone on their deathbed who says, “I wish I would have left an estate of ten million dollars instead of five million.” No, people get to the ends of their lives and wish they would have invested more in their relationships.

Be Loving. I don’t mean to be guided by emotional feelings of “love.” Feelings come and go. This is what I mean when I say loving: to always act in such a way as to do what is best for the other person. Love is not feelings, but actions. When we say that we love someone, we mean that we are committed to their best interests. If we are lucky, those commitments are coupled with strong emotional bonds as well.

Be Forgiving. The fact is this: Where there are people, mistakes will be made. I don’t care if you are the nicest guy on earth (or married to him), you will have some breakdowns in your relationship on occasion. That is the nature of being human. Other people will fail you and you will fail people.

And when this happens we must face a decision: Will we let the relationship remain broken or will we learn to forgive? An analogy might be in order. A relationship is like building a house. It has to have a strong foundation.

That is where you start. Then it must be built step by step until it is finished. During the building process there may be times when a beam falls or the two-by-fours break. The builder has a decision to make. Will he repair the building or let it go? If he chooses to let it go, the house will be weak and eventually fall into disrepair. Unfortunately, too many people let their relationships break and do not repair them by practicing forgiveness. People who leave successful relationships behind them practice the art of forgiveness.

Follow the Golden Rule. The golden rule of life is, “Do to others what you would want them to do to you.” What is most interesting about this is that Christ was the first religious leader to say this in a positive way. Other leaders had said before to “Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.” Relationships are about being proactive and doing for others.

When we wake up each day with the goal to follow the golden rule and do good in people’s lives, we set ourselves on a course that will allow us to build a strong relational legacy.

Think of how you want to be remembered, and then live in such a way that you will be. If you want to be remembered as kind, then be kind. If you want to be remembered as strong, then be strong. If you want to be remembered as friendly, then be friendly. If you want to be remembered as forgiving and patient, then be forgiving and patient. What you do and how you act will add up to how you will be remembered.

It is possible to leave a wonderful relational legacy. If you follow the principles above, you will surely do so.

—Chris Widener